The Healthiest You Series
Many of us understand how to achieve better physical health: exercise, eat well and get enough rest…plus or minus a few other rules. However, how many of us are aware of the other bodies we need to take care of? These include an Emotional body, a Mental Body and a Spiritual body.
The focus of this article is on the Emotional Body and what it needs for optimum health. The first step is to understand that we do, in fact, have an emotional body, what its purpose is and how it works. The second is to gain some basic information on how we can connect and communicate with it for optimal emotional health.
To start, emotions serve the purpose of helping us guide our life, align with our inner purpose and help us make right choice for us. Just as our physical body manages the aspects of the physical body, the emotional body manages the functions of our emotions in relation to ourselves and our lives.
The Emotional body even has a digestive system, similar to the physical body. This is where intake is ‘digested’, items are broken down and it is decided what to keep (nourishment) and what to discard. When we are not consciously aware of this, it can seem like emotions are something that happen to us and even get in situations where we feel we are on a roller coaster ride or overwhelmed with emotion. This is because we are not connected to the fact that we are doing the digestion, that we have communication and influence in the digestion. We are not getting the message the emotions are trying to give us and we are not using emotions wisely.
Emotions can also help us access and create more of what we want in our inner world, which helps us do the same in our outer world. In addition, emotions can help us heal and develop our intuition and inner knowing.
Keep in mind that emotions and feelings are different. Emotions are temporal expressions of a certain type of energy. Feelings are in the inner world and are related to our core self. I can experience anger (emotion) at being fired because in my inner world I feel hurt. The joy (emotion) I experience with my dog is because I feel deep love for her. The fear (emotion) I experience is because of unsafety or insecurity I feel inside.
It is not as important to make the distinction every time and detail this out. It is more important to generally realize there is a separation and that emotions are here to guide us to better understanding our inner world. Emotions are meant to be a tool. We do not have to be attached to them, over whelmed by them or hurt by them. Fully grasping this distinction can be a huge step in emotional health.
So, just start to notice and feel what you are experiencing on a very average everyday experience.
Emotions serve as a way to guide us to know how we are feeling. Often, we process this without realizing it. How many times do we leave a room or make an odd decision just based on a ‘feeling.’ Our emotions and feelings are here to help us and we are in constant communication with them, whether we realize it or not and whether we pay attention to them or not.
Once we start to pay attention to our emotions and see how they are related to our inner self and inner feelings, we can work with them better, and make choices that more align us with our highest self and even help the emotional body discard that which is not needed. This can be done for small, every day decisions to larger, life direction changing decisions.
When we have the skill and ability to know what we are feeling and why, we can be clear in our intention, communication and be better balanced emotionally. It can also lead us to develop our intuition deeper.
The first step is to start to pay attention to our emotions and how they are related to how we feel in our inner self. This takes some time. The purpose of this exercise is to get to know your baseline. You need to know where you start. Get familiar with your specific type of feelings and emotions.
Start by taking 5-10 minutes to overview your day and the various emotions that you had.
Sometimes you might be surprised to see where you had a reaction to something that you did not fully understand. It could be a simple as being irritated at a salesperson or a experiencing a sudden sense of sadness you felt during the day. If you look closely, you will find a connection to something. It could be that something in the salesperson reminded you of someone who hurt in the past or a picture of a couple in an ad which reminded you of a certain time and feeling .
Next time you have a strong emotional reaction to something, take the time to look deeper. Ask yourself what you are feeling or what else this reminds you of. Delve deeper with it. Give yourself permission to explore. You can also do this with a past occurence.
One of the most important aspects of doing an exercise like this is to do it objectively. Just observe and look. Try not to attach any judgment, blame or wrongness about it. Truly just try to see it as a messenger.
Once you are able to identify it, it is easier to understand and deal with it. From here you can start to process it or make the decision to discard it.
The first exercise here is just to slow down and notice. Spend some time in reflection about the various emotions you experience and how they are related to your inner feeling and inner self.
Continued posts to follow:
The Emotional Body: Part 1, The Basics
The Emotional Body: Part 2, Intake and Releasing
The Emotional Body: Part 3, Nourishing
The Emotional Body: Part 4, Developing Intuition
Mental Body and Spiritual Body series to follow.
-L. Leigh Meriweather