They say that after you complete this life there is a review period… a reflection time to overview your life. It is said this is done with complete love and without judgment. We assess our choices, state of being, how we handled things, lessons learned, etc.
Many also believe it is prudent to get a head start by doing periodic life reviews.
I’ve done this for the past decade…periodically over viewing and assessing my life in this manner; and I have to say that I have found it not only terribly helpful, but life changing, as well.
In the beginning, it was really difficult. It was hard to imagine doing this without being extremely critical and self-condemning. I wept many times over the thought of having to review and relive much of my life…especially the early years. This was my human-self reacting.
I kept being reminded that the life review is truly done in a place of complete love and compassion. Although it is hard for my human-self to get there, this concept has stretched my abilities. I’ve learned to practice…just the thought of this. I’ve caught glimpses of this type of divine self reflection, and each time I can experience more of it. It is an easing process.
The other task is to be able to view your life ‘as a whole’ and see it from a larger perspective. Seeing your life with love and compassion from a large perspective and gently evaluating it offers rich rewards. It can help you come to peace and understanding about your choices and situations. It can help you see patterns and direction. It can help you better align with that which you want to do and how you want to live.
And most of all, it can help you avoid feelings of regret and remorse upon your end-of-life time. It is truly a sad place to be…one of “I wish I had….”
Review now. Resolve issues now. Make peace with your life. Go through periodic times of evaluation to keep on track.
It can also help to ask yourself “When I look back on my life, I want to see…”
Questions to ask yourself would be: What is dearest to your heart? What is it you wish to do most? While it is true we have as many lives as we want…why wait? Why experience regret, remorse and sadness?
My own self reflection reveals ‘What I want most is to be proud of my life’. I can’t always say I have been able to do that in the past, but I can say that now. I also want to live a beautiful life. I heard a friend comment that she wanted to live a bold life.
It is so easy to get off track. Whatever type of life you desire, keep it close to your heart and your awareness, and periodically assess if you are on track.
Make only choices that support your ultimate goal.
I try to live not being afraid, loving myself and moving forward.
Keep in mind, there is always a turning point where we may decide to go in a different direction; a turning point of growth, love and understanding, and of living more of the divine life that we are given the opportunity to live.
Each of us has this desire within us, whether it is to be a divine parent, mechanic, teacher, real estate agent, or…..
An earnest life review now can help get us there.
Review you life…where do you need to make amends? Where do you need to experience more joy? Where do you need more love and understanding? Where do you need to live in more balance? What will it take for you to live now, in balance, with the feeling of not owing or being owed? Can you release those you feel are indebted to you..those who you feel owe you? Coming to peace with the situation and releasing them frees you.
Assess your current actions and be pure with them to assure that you are not making offerings which, in some way, hold the other person in debt to you. Do things because you wish to do them and you want to offer them. Be clear about this within yourself. Do things only when it is right and feels good to do so. Do not make actions out of guilt or to get something in return. Be clear and honest with yourself about this. This will help you to balance your emotional state and above all, love yourself.
Give yourself credit for engaging in challenging task such as this. Be gentle and loving with yourself.
Fix the things you can in your life…let the rest go.
Follow that which brings you joy.
Many do this review and evaluation in a deeply private state, many work with a spiritual advisor to help with guidance and perspective, and many utilize a type of journaling. No matter your preferred method, engage, review and enjoy.
I’d love to hear your experience and comments on the exercise!
L. Leigh Meriweather